Over time, the"Mother of the Bride" has been surrounded by many misconceptions and misunderstandings which have even put her in a different light as to what she actually does ...
Inaddition, the fact is that her role has fundamentally changed over the years due to women now being more financially independent, pursuing homes, careers and businesses of their own and being generally older at the time of marriage …
The Mother of The Bride
is not the decision maker neither does she override the groom, her main responsibility is to be a supportive element in the bride’s life during this time, to ensure that the bride’s wishes are carried out in the way she would like for her wedding.
However there are situations when a bride may leave the entire planning to her Mother but this is purely a matter of convenience or personal taste. Either way her role is vital, as the reliable, devoted person who will see that everything runs smoothly.
WEDDING DUTIES
PRE - WEDDING
With the Father of The Bride, will congratulate the Parents of The Groom
With the Father of The Bride holds an official engagement party for the couple
With The Father of The bride will present a gift for the groom
Can help the bride to select the gown and accessories which she will enjoy. This is a very special task as the mother must be a good adviser but not openly choose the bride’s dress herself.
Chooses her own wedding apparel but the Mother of The Bride is usually dressed in a tone which compliments the chosen wedding colours. She will inform The Mother of The Groom of the colours so that she has the option of doing the same
Helps the bride and groom to prepare a wedding budget which will be suitable for their type of wedding
Ensures that the guest list is put together and invitations are sent out
Organises accommodation which will be required for any visiting guests
Sees to the structure of the actual ceremony, so that everyone has their instructions and knows what they are doing
Helps to keep an account of wedding gifts which are received
WEDDING DAY
The mother of The Bride will travel with the bridesmaids to the ceremony
Is seated by the usher and is the last person to be seated for the ceremony
The Mother of the Bride can light the family candle with the Mother of the Groom
She can witness the signing of the registry
Can stand in the receiving line, if so , she is traditionally the first to greet the guest
Acts as the official hostess of the reception
Can dance with the groom at the reception
AFTER THE WEDDING
Arranges for the bride’s dress to be cleaned and appropriately stored
