In the past, the “Parents of the Groom” have often found themselves overlooked, without much say in the celebration of their Son’s wedding.  This generally stems from old tradition, where they didn’t really contribute to the wedding finances, which was largely the responsibility of the bride’s family and the groom himself.  Their activity spanned only as far as a rehearsal dinner and wedding gifts. 

Today, this is a very different picture, with the groom’s parents actively participating in both the finances and organisation of the wedding where needed.

From the moment the engagement is announced, the two families officially become one with a common goal in mind, which is to see the celebration is a good one.  It is a time for congratulations and meetings, where all will discuss what needs to be done and in what areas they each will be able to help.  While the “Mother of the Bride” still holds that matriarchal role as an organiser, it is nowadays often a collaboration of the two Mothers who come together to do their part.  This stage is essential, so that everyone is clear as to who does what and who will be financially responsible for required aspects, to avoid complications later or the risky possibility of something being forgotten.